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When Self-Care Becomes a Weapon

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Every day we are bombarded with a new product that will save us. Many of these marketing efforts are directed at women. Women are struggling with their mental health at alarming rates. According to the American PsychiatricAssociation, each year 1 in 5 women in the United States struggles with a diagnosable mental health condition. Women are also twice as likely as men to experience generalized anxiety disorder or panic disorder. Click here to read more…

My Child Recovered From Her Addiction. But I’m Not Sure I Ever Really Will.

A text from my daughter popped up on my phone the other day. “I need to talk to you.”

I immediately texted back, “All OK?”

When she called, it turned out she had a question about her new dog and what kind of food to get him. We had a nice conversation about pet care and dog food, just a normal chat like so many we’ve had in the past. Click here to read more…

How to Recognize and Overcome Trauma

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Psychological trauma impacts many of us—it is estimated 70 percent of adults in the U.S. will experience some type of traumatic event in their lifetime, with 20 percent going on to develop post-traumatic stress disorder after the fact. 

Trauma is an emotional response to a negative event. The effects of trauma can be overwhelming and difficult to understand and move on from. Because trauma can be so hard to process, it’s often difficult to understand the full impact it has on our lives. Click here to read more…

How to Use the Breath to Strengthen Your Mind

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How you’re breathing can tell you something about your current state of mind—maybe you’re feeling pretty good, thinking about happy hour cocktails with colleagues. Or maybe you’re feeling a bit stressed, trying to wrap everything up before the workday ends. 

Not to say that all stress is bad, says Emma Seppälä, Director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE) at Stanford. But if you’re running on high-octane all the time, you can easily become a candidate for burnout. Click here to read more…

Those Who Admit Not Knowing, Know More

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People who are comfortable enough to admit that they don’t know something tend to know more than those who pretend to be experts on a subject when they don’t really know anything. This might not come as a surprise because if you are willing to admit that you don’t know something you are open to learning more about any given subject. Click here to read more…

Autistic Communication Differences & How to Adjust for Them

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It’s now clear to me that allistics communicate in a totally different way compared to how we autistic people do.  I saw a report about how autistics communicate well between themselves, and my first thought was, No shit, Sherlock.

I feel like an outsider in the neurotypical world because I process things in a different way; conversely you will feel the same in our world.  Our issue is we are not understood and are a minority.  We’re not without tact and grace, it’s just that we have a different internal “code” about what it means to communicate and relate. Click here to read more…

4 simple ways to be more mindful at work

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Mindfulness and work are like yin and yang. When many of us think about work, we picture the endless emails, calls, presentations and meetings, and the frantic mess of all of that packed into a day. On the contrary, mindfulness reminds us of a state of peace and being consciously present with everything we do (basically the opposite of a work environment). However, just like yin and yang, mindfulness and work can be powerful when interconnected and harnessed in the right way.

The question is, how exactly do you become more mindful in the context of a hectic work environment? Click here to read more…

The Healing Power of Compassion

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Several years ago I made a conscious decision to grow. Not a garden full of tomatoes, or my bank account, or my hair. The focus has been on one very specific muscle, which really isn’t a muscle at all, but I like to think of it that way. Compassion. It’s right next to the heart muscle. Not really. But for argument’s sake, let’s say it is. I want to grow this in a big way. I want it to be so large I’ll have to give it a name and buy it a wardrobe. Click here to read more…