#Connection

Correction Through Connection. As it turns out, there is no other way.

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As part of discovering their very important place in the world, our children and teens will often behave in ways that are, let’s say, wildly short of ‘adorable’. They will explore, experiment, push to find the limits, and exercise their independence. As parents, this can be triumphant and wonderful to watch. At other times, it can bring us to our knees. We might yell, say things we regret, or say reasonable things in ways we regret. We’re human.It’s going to happen. Click here to read more…

Autistic Communication Differences & How to Adjust for Them

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It’s now clear to me that allistics communicate in a totally different way compared to how we autistic people do.  I saw a report about how autistics communicate well between themselves, and my first thought was, No shit, Sherlock.

I feel like an outsider in the neurotypical world because I process things in a different way; conversely you will feel the same in our world.  Our issue is we are not understood and are a minority.  We’re not without tact and grace, it’s just that we have a different internal “code” about what it means to communicate and relate. Click here to read more…

The Healing Power of Compassion

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Several years ago I made a conscious decision to grow. Not a garden full of tomatoes, or my bank account, or my hair. The focus has been on one very specific muscle, which really isn’t a muscle at all, but I like to think of it that way. Compassion. It’s right next to the heart muscle. Not really. But for argument’s sake, let’s say it is. I want to grow this in a big way. I want it to be so large I’ll have to give it a name and buy it a wardrobe. Click here to read more…

Finding Connection Through "Chosen Family"

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When Samantha Nystrom first began questioning her gender identity, she didn’t turn to her parents for support. The thought of losing them, wrote Nystrom, was too emotionally traumatic to imagine. So she turned, instead, to her friends. And when she did come out to her family, and faced the rejection she had so feared, her friends were there to pick up the pieces. In them, Nystrom found a new family. Click here to read more…

10 Things To Know If You Love Someone With PTSD

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Post-traumatic stress disorder is a mental health condition that can be triggered by experiencing or witnessing something traumatic. Many people think of PTSD as a disorder that only military veterans deal with, but it can also occur in reaction to other distressing events like sexual violence, a physical assault, childhood or domestic abuse, a robbery, the sudden death of a loved one, a terrorist attack or a natural disaster. Click here to read more…

How To Talk To A Child About Mental Illness

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Explaining mental illness to a child can be a bit challenging. Young children don’t understand depression or anxiety as adults do and it can be difficult to find the words to explain it to them. As a result, many parents opt not to bring up the issue reasoning that it’s better not to confuse or stress their kids. Click here to read more…

Compassion fatigue hits not only professional caregivers. Other people get it, too.

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My lifelong friend Vicki had finally hit the wall. For a long time, she’d tried to lighten the load of a friend who was facing a terminal illness. “As she got sicker, I tried to relieve every burden I could imagine,” Vicki, 61, who asked that her last name not be used for privacy reasons, told me recently. “I figured that compared to what this family was going through, no service I could offer would be too much for me.” Click here to read more…

Habits of People With Concealed Depression

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There will be two main types of people reading this blog: those finding themselves better equipped to understand some of the people they love and those who see their own reflections in these habits.

Depression often goes unseen, unrecognized, and undiagnosed. A person with concealed depression is someone who is conditioned to deal with their inner demons in a way that doesn’t make them clearly visible. They may or may not be diagnosed, and this may or may not be something they’ve shared with even their closest of companions. The problem is that the world becomes darkest when we all stop being able to understand each other. We tend to believe that hardship is worn openly upon one’s chest like a battle scar, but many of these wounds do not easily reveal themselves to those that do not take the time to look. Click here to read more…